I hear some pretty strange things living here. it's always a little surprising to hear the funny little things that people will say or hint at, or even just assume. but i know where i chose to live and i know what comes with that decision. honestly there are a lot of people who are very loving and kind and understanding, but every once in a while someone will say something that just honestly shocks me.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Two boys around 19 came into my work, one went to the back while the other stayed in the lobby to wait. I was sitting by my front desk girl, sarah and we were just talking. Sarah mentioned something about being in the sun and i made a comment about how i'm an indoor kind of girl and would rather be painting or watching movies or go to a museum than hike or ski or anything like that..... this is how it went from there...
Boy: What? You don't like to be outside? You're just going to be a stay at home mom that cooks all day.
Me and Sarah: Look surprised at his outburst and laugh because that is so not what i do!
Boy: Why is that funny?
Me: I don't know how to cook, my husband ALWAYS cooks!
Sarah: And she doesn't really like kids.
Me: Yeah i have cute little dogs instead.
Boy: You don't like kids?! How can you not like kids!!
Sarah: I should've said that differently, it isn't that she doesn't like them, she can appreciate kids, she just doesn't like to be around them a lot.
Me: Yeah, they're cute sometimes, but they're just so loud and crazy and i don't have a lot of patience when it comes to loud noises.
Boy: Well doesn't your husband make a lot of noise?
Me:(confused....what does this boys dad do for a living?!) not really, we just hang out and eat good food and sleep in on weekends and work and have fun.
Boy: So you seriously don't want kids?
Me: I don't know, we've only been married for a year, maybe someday, but it's just not really in our immediate future plans.
Boy: (dead serious and and in a really rude tone of voice) WHY DID YOU EVEN GET MARRIED IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE KIDS?!
Me: (shocked) Ummm..... because i love my husband!
Sarah:(who is an active member of the church and has been married for 2.5 years and doesn't have children yet)... There are lots of reasons to be married besides to multiply and replenish the earth!
Boy: I know but i just don't see the point!
--a few seconds of awkward silence and blank stares later, i changed the subject and asked sarah a question. I mean really.... what can i say to that?!
But SERIOUSLY? WHO SAYS THAT? And especially to a perfect stranger?! AND we weren't even talking to him AND we weren't even talking about children until he made the comment about me not liking the outdoors. WEIRDO!!
So just because i may not want kids i have to have a lonely life and don't deserve to be loved or in love, or married?! Suddenly we have proposition 9... if you aren't pregnant by the 2nd year of marriage your wedding will now be annulled. If you know you don't want children you can only be married in the state of Pennsylvania?! CRAZY BOY!
So funny! When he finally left I started laughing so hard i was almost crying! i couldn't even stop! Sarah was really mad. She was so offended for me! i explained to her that i'm used to inappropriate comments from strangers about my life choices and although that was by far one of the craziest, that i know not to get offended by those kinds of things. she said " It's people like him that give the church and it's members a bad name! i HATE that!" HAHA I guess it's a good thing i know a lot of people like Sarah, who is so kind and loving and accepting, or i may think everyone in this valley was crazy! But again.... WHO SAYS THAT?! HAHA.
Posted by Lyndsey at 7:26 PM